Ya’ll Need To Chill – Episode #1

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This series is in collaboration with the wonderful PAw from meensspeaks!

Disclaimer: Every single opinion and experience is in conjunction with the Indian society, the society and people that we’ve grown up with. If you’re not Indian but the instances are similar, we’re glad you can relate and understand. If you ARE Indian and try denying/ arguing about this, may God bless your soul because it’ll be ripped to shreds by our hands.

YNTC Episode #1: “Your bra strap is showing”

Oh! The…the disgrace, we…have…betrayed the world….EVERYONE! We’ve let the whole world in on THE most guarded secret of all time, one that puts even the secrets that resides within Area 51 to shame! The secret that WOMEN WEAR BRAS BECAUSE WE HAVE BOOBS.

We didn’t know wearing bras were a secret or did we miss out on something important? Some announcement where the visibility of bra straps held people to question virtue of a woman? So you’re saying that the piece of cloth that covers breasts, breasts that people sexualize, are offensive to your eyes? And that we should be embarrassed when people know, or acknowledge, that we wear a bra?

Breaking news: when a woman’s bra strap is visible, she’s “shameless”, or “asking for it” according to people, men in particular, MEN who know squat about the chest area, unless they’re fantasizing about it.

“Look at her, walking around, cheating on all her boyfriends” “Well, a woman has needs, right?” “I can see her bra strap” “OMG what an ATTENTION WHORE!”

Excuse me, but do you know how expensive bras are?! Especially, the smooth, satin-like, makes-me-feel-like-a-goddess ones?! Our bras are expensive and pretty, therefore ex-squeeze me while we pull it out for people to appreciate it. What’s the point of hiding these wonders if people don’t see them?

Believe it or not, but there are phrases that indirectly tell you that your strap is showing like- “Your boyfriend is seen” or “India is coming out of Asia”. Like, WOW. Why not come up with something more subtle and fun, like- “Your pull out game is strong” or “Your boob armour is showing”, why not? Personally, we’re fond of the latter.

The extent of drama that comes with our bra strap making an appearance in public, you’d think it’s an offence graver than some “kEwL gUyzZ” walking around in their low waist jeans, with their butts hanging out. Yeah, btw, that is one of the first arguments against the bra strap. That “if men can’t show their underpants, women can’t show their bra strap” (actually read in the comments section of a Facebook Post defending the bra strap).

First of all, we personally have no issues seeing a man’s underpants. Not that we particularly enjoy having to see them in the metro or bus, but we can always look away and so that’s what we do (which one can do for the bra strap too, just saying). Also, it’s not the underpants that people hate seeing; it’s the bum crack everyone has a problem with. And anyway, comparing a bra strap to the underpants is not fair to the bra strap coz you know, bra straps are mostly always cute, unlike certain hole-y underpants some of us had the misfortune of seeing.

Aeons ago, in a land far far away, there was once an older lady arguing that if we allow bra straps to be shown today, next we’ll be allowing naked women to walk out and about in the streets. Yes, that’s very true. Today it’s the bra strap, tomorrow it’s the Parliament calling an emergency session to change the existing laws on public nudity, and day after all women are getting naked and the week after that complete anarchy ensues. TOTALLY going to happen. TOTALLY. We love enjoying a cool breeze around our privates, thank you very much.

Let’s get to the bottom line. It’s a strap. It’s an effin bra strap. It’s essentially coloured elastic band. Can’t we all just get over the piece of cloth and move on to caring about the bigger things in life? Like women not being able be in public without getting harassed, or gay people not being able to get married or the bee population dying massively? Can’t we?

We got a wonderful answer on Twitter from a fellow WPer, Zalak of zalakwrites  , when asked what goes through her mind when someone tells her that her bra strap is visible. She imparted pearls of wisdom, saying:

“When I hear this, I reply saying FYI. And walk on. Never saw anyone pulling up a man for scratching his balls or adjusting his undies in public”

Other than the serious rampant issue of misogyny, can we just compare the very ACT of adjusting one’s straps with adjusting one’s balls? How is placing your hand gobsmack to your crotch, wiggling, pulling out what seems to be a front-faced wedgie, not frowned upon but pretending to scratch your neck while subtly moving an elastic band an inch to the other direction an embarrassment?

And who, in the mighty depths of Hades, gave the decision that coloured bras are a no-no under white t-shirts? Bruh please, it’s bad enough that we don’t get to wear our lacy, sexy undies for a week, every month, for the majority of our life-span, so leave our clothes and sod off. Hell hath no fury like withholding something shimmery from a woman.

The next time someone comes up to you, gawking about how your bra strap/bra is visible, put your hand inside your shirt, pull out the confetti, throw it in their face and walk away.

And if you have an even cooler response, let us know in the comments! 😀

And remember, BRAS BEFORE BROS!

Cheers!

WBG and PAw :)x


Hey guys! So, this is a regular series that we’re planning on continuing together, forever and ever! We’ve been brainstorming this for quite some time and we’ve finally glued together the scraps and whispered the magic words and brought this to life!

The main aim of this series is to bash out every silly, racist, sexist things that have ever been said to us, personally and in general, with sass and style.

And it is not limited to gender or country. If any of you folks have something to vent out, LET US KNOW. Anything that’s ever been directed at you or to the people that you know, LET US KNOW. Click on both of our CONTACT pages in the menu, and get to venting!

Until then,

Cheers!

 

 

 

 

 

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39 thoughts on “Ya’ll Need To Chill – Episode #1

  1. Julie says:

    Being an Indian girl I can really relate to this. I live in Bangalore. You’re probably aware of the incidents that happened on New year’s Eve. The first reaction everyone had was that the girls we “asking for it” and such unsanskaar shame shame puppy shame where is her saree ka pallu?
    A 16 year old girl’s bra strap shouldn’t make a 40 year old man with two children “uncomfortable”
    I really appreciate the way you’ve decided to bring such issues to light. I’d love to read more of this series:) x
    Julie

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    • That Weird Brown Girl says:

      Hey Julie! I’m a Bangalorean too 🙂 and I DEFINITELY aware, and surprisingly, was around MG road during the incident, which still makes me sick to my stomach even now! Isn’t it funny how everyone jumps at the girl like it’s her fault? And we’ve argued about this for so long to insensitive twats but we must never tire! And that “shame shame” got me crackin 😀 they say “Cheeee, Thu Thu” too 😂
      Thank you so much, I’d love it if you have anything to contribute to this, if you want to 😊

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  2. Lily says:

    I’m not Indian but the bra strap thing seems to be an issue in every culture. I remember I was called to my daugher’s school when she was in grade 5 because her bra strap was showing. I told the school their problem wasn’t with my daughter’s choice of clothing but rather the men working at the school that they seemed to think couldn’t control themselves around her! Maybe if they had respectable, decent men working there, maybe they wouldn’t notice a 10 year old’s bra strap. It shut them up completely! Love the these theme posts – very nice!

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  3. bloggeray says:

    I opened my reader and read this post on TPL’s blog and was thinking whether you’ve put it up too or not. Put up a long-ish comment there.
    I think this is a wonderful initiative. Both of you use a very informal, communicative and friendly tone to your posts which is very engaging. Coupled with the humour, this style acts as a satire or black comedy around topics. Kudos to both of you. Will love to read more of this series.
    As for straps, it is for the wearer to worry about. Why should I or anyone else fret over that? If you have a ₹2000 bra whose strap peeking out you don’t feel bad about, that is fine by me. I’d (and should) be concerned if my own jeans is slipping below my waist.
    Great post. Cheers!

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  4. braddahr says:

    In our city, a very long way from India, there was a recent controversy over women working out in a city run fitness centre. They often just wear their sports bra while exercising. A city employee decided to tell one such woman to cover up or leave the facility. However, men often workout in revealing tank tops and no one says anything. After the issue came to light, the city said sports bras are okay.

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  5. Samantha says:

    Hahaha, omg you two have a great way of putting words together! Love this post!

    I never experienced such a fuss over bra straps showing. As you wrote: every woman wears one (well, most women maybe), so what does it matter when you see the strap? It’s not like we run around jiggling our boobs with our hands. It’s just a bra strap. Go take a deep breath and carry on living your life, I think. There are so many, much more important issues to fuss over, why don’t people go do that instead?

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  6. Bachelor In Bangalore says:

    Personally I never notice the bra strap on a woman even it is worn like in your pics. I just realised the bra strap was used an accessory to look sexy only with this article. Earlier, I would think that the girl in question was wearing a loose t-shirt. I’m completely aligned we underwear argument though.

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      • That Weird Brown Girl says:

        Informing them is one thing, calling them out on it with implied meaning is another. Did you know, on a general basis, how many times the visibility of bra straps has resulted in either the women saying “that girl has no shame” and with the men saying “she’s asking for it”. I myself, as well as the girl who wrote this post with me, have been on the receiving end of each and every disgusting comment. One person had the audacity to say “stop trying to lure men”. Do you know how sickening it is to hear that?! Little girls here are made to be ashamed for bras and slips and with no logical reason. You may be informing someone, but there are people who don’t just inform, more like jab.

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