Are you having one of those days? Where you’re just so angry and frustrated with or without a reason? Where you just want to cry or sulk all day long? Everything and everyone just perfectly seems to piss you off at the same time?
Period or not, if you’re definitely experiencing the symptoms mentioned above, I have a few ideas on how to lessen the sadness. They might not magically make you happy, but enough to make you, well, less sad or less frustrated.
1) Come out of social media: Chances are, some picture or post may have triggered you in a negative way, and you wouldn’t know it right away, because they work slowly, and the more you scroll through any social network, the more unsettling you feel. So, jumping onto social media whenever we feel sad or lonely is not exactly the smartest idea, as it tends to do the opposite.
2) Switch off your phone: Answer any calls, texts, or e-mails, that may be important and switch it off. You may feel like texting your friend, thinking that they might cheer you up, but that’s not always the case. They might end up being busy with their work, and that would end up with you feeling even worse than before.
3) 30 seconds to think: Dedicate 30 seconds to sort out what exactly it is that’s making you feel this way. If it’s not going to matter in the future, don’t spend more than 30 seconds on it. Once you put that in place, allow it to wash over you completely. Once you’re done counting to 30, stop. You’re done.
4) Music: Listen to music, but avoid songs that have memories attached to it. Music is so powerful that the moment you hear the first few notes, your mind jumps onto the thing that you’ve been avoiding all day. You may find the situation to be apt, sad songs, angry songs, etc., but to listen to them is to face what you don’t want to face. So, try listening to songs that are the exact opposite, even if it’s a crappy song with crappy lyrics about butts or weed or money, listen to it.
5) Get out of your room: Do not stay cooped up under your blanket all day. It builds an aura of complete hopelessness around you. And though it seems comforting, it only saps you of your ability to get up and get a grip. Take a walk around your house, through your living room, the kitchen, the lawn. Go out to your balcony or your terrace and keep a slow pace.
6) Make something: Cook. Create. Study. Read. Write. Build. Nothing keeps you distracted and your mind focused more than concentrating on a task. By the end of it, you’ll probably forget about your problems and feel a little bit contented.
7) Play: Have pets? Play with them the whole day. Have kids in your apartment building? I’m sure they’d be ready to play a little football with you. Or video games? Even better. This activity doesn’t require interaction with a human your age, with the added bonus of feeling like a kid again.
You may contact your friend or friends once you feel a little better, because for the most part, it’s up to you to make yourself feel better, while your lovely friends help a little more in the end. And if you still want to continue feeling not-happy for some more time, by all means, do it as long as you like.
All of us need to switch OFF and switch back ON once in a while.
These are the things I do whenever I turn into a grumpy cat. Hopefully, it helps some of you guys as well 🙂